coping with changes..

Hey Baby,

one day when you grew up you will realize and start questioning why things changes.
and things changes so fast that you no longer realize that it is you who is now make a difference.
being difference is great.
people know you for something and that's good. instead, if you feel like the commoners, perhaps you need to make a stand and make your point.
never be afraid of revealing who you area and make the change.
When you never go down you will never turn up. when you dont feel sad, you would never know how it feels to be glad.
just be normal and don't be perfect.

There are times that I feel that I don't belong in everywhere -- just like one size smaller shoes. painful and hurts, and always think 'why does she gets that perfect one'
well bite this, as far as I know -- every living human being has their own problems.
so you can always cheer yourself from knowing that you are not alone :)
secondly, you always have options - to leave the room or stay, smile and just nodded.
you can try to adapt or you can choose to take a nap. remember the options area yours.
thirdly, you will never know who will be the good friend now or make the bad girls then. people changes even without you realizing how much changes you'd make within the last couple of years.

Look at the mirror and see who you really are.
ask yourself on what's the point of you're doing things.
sometimes.. your reason is much far noble than the saints themselves.
try it.

and remember one thing,
no matter how much you change - I will always love you and be there for you in heart.
no matter when, where, and for whatever reason why.

Athena's First Singing - twinkle, twinkle little star..

It's the Barney effect at the era of 2009.

Pretty much different than how we used to be -- or at least how I used to be.
Back then in 1982s, I would probably start the singing with some 'Topi saya bundar' and 'Burung Kakatua' which have the same notes. That might be the reason why I'm not considered as a tone-literate :p

Athena, at the age of 2 years and 1 month old -- sang both 'Twinkle-Twinkle Little Stars' & 'I Love you' and that happens just after Barney's Show in Jakarta last weekend.
Amazingly, her first time attending music & theatrical performance has triggered her wanting to open her mouth and constantly singing a song, even with a pause here and then and not so clear English words, but she got it -- in full song.
The funny thing is that she remain stunned and say nothing during the show. Not even when I move closer to Barney so she could realize that it is not just a big TV screen with some sparks, but trully a real Barney & friends were there performing music and dance.
Perhaps she captured everything in her mind and practice everything out when she got home.

an amazing experience -- a precious moment that will last for good:

1. Taking Athena to a music performance where she just stunned. and being a very good daughter doing all what mamanda says (yeup -- it was mother 7 daughter moment only). Capturing her excitement when entering the hall, sitting properly on her seat as if she was grown ups, being a very nice little darling for the rest of the show and even until it's over. Putting on her black little hat over the heating sun, and her sunglasses on while waiting Papanda to pick us up.
2. Listening to her singing of a full song. This time was my turn stunning at her.

I believe music plays a great role on her brain development, and not only that, she as well learn to move her body according to the rythm played. Music & Singing & Dancing would be the most fun thing to do when a mom try to teach something to her baby. It's delightful for both mom & baby.

Here are some tips to make your baby a singing-baby :

• Step 1

  Listen to different kinds of music. Move to the music by dancing, marching, or wiggling in silly ways. Get your child interested in music from the day you bring your baby home by making music part of your everyday life.

• Step 2

  Play or sing the same songs over and over again. Repetition is the easiest and fastest way to teach your child a song.

• Step 3

  Use songs to initiate transitions in your toddler's day. For breakfast sing, "If you're hungry and you know it clap your hands, sit at the table, give mommy a kiss ' " Sing clean-up songs when you are picking up toys. Choose favorite songs to sing at naptime and bedtime.

• Step 4

  Act out songs while you sing. "Itsy Bitsy Spider" is a common song to act out while you are singing. Make up your own actions for songs such as "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" or sign the alphabet while singing the ABC's.

• Step 5

  Buy a cassette tape or CD to listen to while in the car. There are several sing-a-long tapes available for every age group. Playing and singing children's music while traveling is also a good way to entertain bored children.

• Step 6

  Include music in physical play. Move while the music is playing and freeze when the music stops. Teach rhythm by clapping and marching in time to music. Practice fast and slow by singing at different speeds.

• Step 7
  Sing. Sing songs with your toddler when you see things that remind you of a song. Sing when you are walking, shopping or cleaning. Make music a part of your toddler's life by making music a part of your life.

And some other small tips:

• Buy a tape player and cassette tapes for your child to play with.
• Collect different types of instruments for your child to play with.
• Talk about different instruments you can hear when listening to music.
• You may want to stay away from chaotic styles of head-banging rock, grunge and rap. Some animal studies show altered brain development due to prolonged exposure to chaotic, discordant music.

Tell me if your baby sing yet.

:)

Talk MIMA

My so grown up baby has this universal language which she use at most for many meaning, it's:
'MIMA'
just like an apple button on Mac, this 'MIMA' talkings means a LOT!
Here are some definition that I found out up to today:
1. MIMA = Mommy, perhaps because she was talking with speed and without any pause -- mommymommymommymommymommy....
2. MIMA = MAMI = EYANG, fyi, I called my mum 'Mami' hence she start calling her grandma with mami.. again -- it's constantly repeated.
3. MIMA = Mimi = 'I Want Milk'
4. MIMA = Minta = 'I want it'
5. MIMA = just being nagging and that she think mima is a mumbling sentence at her intermediate babbling classes :p
6. MIMA = 'I want mommy's breastmilk'
7. MIMA = 'that one'

Thats all for now.. I will update if there are more to come :)

Athena on Runway

Hey All,

I'm exercising for my future sidejob here,
And Mamanda thought she could make a good fashion photographer ;-)

Okay, start walking and one - and two - and three !

and tap - tap - tap, right left right .... Chin Ups Baby !

And ready...... and turn around.....

Make a swing pose.. and keep the tap.

Make a final pose. Waive hands.

Good one - that's my baby !

And Little Athena is ready to go worldwide!

;-)

Thena's First Latch to Breastfeeding..

I still clearly remember how assured I am about giving an exclusive breast-feeding to Thena. Working for IFFO business privileged me having a firsthand information on how irreplaceable breastmillk was. So, Yes I keep my faith on giving the best for my baby.
But there's no such thing as perfect. I have lost my faith eversince doctor decided that I have to undergo the sectio to save my baby's life then dragged me to the delivery room. I was so depressed that I never prepared my self for having a section delivery, and to imagine all the consuquences afterwards... I was emotionally down.
After Thena was born, I was amazed. And still insisted to have the first-latch on soon. Thena was a smart baby, her instinct was amazing, she knew how to latch. I told the nurse many times, insisted, that I want an exclusive breastfeeding for my baby.
The first day, all Thena did was spending the night with Manda. She's good at latching. But when dawn appears, she started to cry, and CRYYYYY.... and Manda panicked, and Manda Cried too...
And eyang start to yell at manda cause, she thought you're horribly thirsty, and insisted for you to get Formula milk. I couldn't say no..
We handed you to the nurse, and I couldn't stop crying...
Early in the morning, Manda heard you cry outside, been like ages..
I tried again to give you the most tasty nectar in the whole universe =)
Second day, survived.
Third Day, I started having nipple crack & sores. So I did a single breastmilk to Thena.. The next day, that breasmilk got cracked and sores. And I use the other one...
I thought I have given enough breast-massage during pregnancy, but it seems never been enough. And turned out that I have a short nipple which trouble Thena to latch, and end up in w arong position which cause cracked nipples.
How do I know I have a short nipple? Never in mylife that I compare my nipple to others' nipple.. i dont think anyone ever do that too.. so yes when the doctors said do your nipples pullin out, I said yes. I didn't know that it should be longer...
Enough saying that I depend to Medela every breastfeeding.. and I'h tried almost every brand of nipple shield. Have like 4 pairs of them....
Once I have cracked nipple, and went to the pediatrician, she encourage me to try breasfeeding without the shield, and it works! And it boosts my confidence, we all went to lactation consultation. I was happier than ever. They said that nipple shield is not good for long term usage as it may hold back your baby from directly feel your skin and smell it.. It restrain your baby from knowing you. But what can I do, I'm devastated without the shield and medela cream.
It's been going for a month..
another day.. the shield hurt the skin so much , so I decided to deal with it. Breastfeeding without nipple shield. And amazingly it worked. I didn't feel any pain even though it was cracked.
It was the best sensation a woman can get.

And it was the beginning of never stop breastfeeding whenever Thena wants..
Mamanda felt so guilty giving you IFFO, but I had too, cause you're loosing much weight at the first months. Panda encourage Manda not to be depressed and felt guilty in the other hand still getting the best milk from Manda everyday.
Breastmilk composition change day to day, that's why every single day Manda has to breastfeed Thena. It has more value for your lifetime.
A month before getting back to work, I tried to have the milk pumped. But it end up that when Thena's thirsty I have no more... so I decided to prioritize the fresh one for Thena.
When I started getting back to work.. I was devastated. Too busy to pump the breastmilk and been thru many overtimes... I decided to keep the best milk for you when I got home.
I might only do Night & weekend breastfeeding on demand... but I decided to give it till Thena decided not to. Yes, I enjoy breastfeeding as much as Thena, It's the best quality moment we had and I will breasfed her till she decided not to =)
Thena had made me the most happiest mother on earth...

26 January 2008

Fact about Thena aiming 7 Months:
- Complete baby immunization's shot -- end up with HIB infentrix
- She had Lower two incisors or front teeth
- Able to crawl upfront
- Start trying to stand
- Reaching up thing in high places
- Babbling... and giggling...
- Height 73cm, Weight 8.5kg
- Love playing peek-a-boo
- know that when you count to 1 - 2 - 3, she'll raise her eyebrows & smile at 3!
- Learn to walk holding on to something
- Ride the walker buggy =)

Pertolongan Pertama Bayi Jatuh

Aduh, Mamanda jadi tambah deg2an... baru baca ini... mungkin nanti baru cek semuanya... takut banget thena benjol dibelakang kepala..

Diambil dari milis bayi/nikita:

PERTOLONGAN PERTAMA BAYI JATUH

Hati-hati jangan langsung menggendongnya. Pastikan dulu bagaimana
kondisinya!

Usia bayi adalah masa rawan terjadi kecelakaan. Saat ia belajar
berguling umpamanya dan orangtua lengah, ia bisa saja terjatuh dari
tempat tidur. Untuk itulah manajemen penanganan kasus bayi terjatuh
amat diperlukan. Yang pasti, saat si kecil terjatuh, jangan hanya
mengkhawatirkan bagian kepala saja, karena semua anggota tubuhnya
memiliki risiko yang sama untuk mengalami benturan yang dapat
membahayakannya. Berikut penjelasan dr. Anna Tjandra, Sp.A dari RSAB
Harapan Kita, Jakarta mengenai manajemen kecelakaan pada anak yang
sederhana, yaitu:

* Menyaksikan langsung anak terjatuh.

- Perhatikan bagian mana dari tubuh anak yang mengalami benturan.

- Ingat proses jatuhnya, apakah langsung menghujam ke lantai atau
terbentur sesuatu terlebih dahulu baru ke lantai.

- Pastikan dari ketinggian berapa meter anak terjatuh dan media apa
yang menjadi tempat pendaratannya.

- Lihat dan perhatikan baik-baik kondisi si kecil. Apakah setelah
jatuh langsung menangis dan menggerak-gerakkan semua anggota
badannya? Jika ya, kita bisa langsung menggendong untuk
menenangkannya. Setelah ia tenang, baru lakukan observasi.

- Adapun observasi yang perlu dilakukan adalah:

+ Cari dan ingat bagian-bagian mana saja yang lebam/benjol/ memar di
seluruh anggota badan bayi. Jika menemukan benjolan di kepala atau
memar di badan, boleh diobati dengan obat antitrauma oles. Jika pada
bagian kepala tidak ditemukan lebam atau benjol, tapi bayi menangis
saat dipegang, larikan segera ia ke rumah sakit terdekat.

+ Coba gerakkan kedua tangan bayi, ke samping, ke atas, ke bawah, ke
depan, lalu rentangkan dan angkat-angkatlah. Jika ada keluhan
pastikan di tangan yang mana dan saat dalam posisi seperti apa. Ini
sebagai bahan untuk dilaporkan ke dokter.

+ Lakukan hal yang sama pada kaki.

+ Tengokkan kepala bayi ke kanan dan ke kiri. Coba dekatkan dagu
bayi ke dada secara perlahan. Jika ada keluhan catat sebagai laporan
pada dokter.

+ Miringkan badan si kecil ke kiri dan ke kanan. Jika ada keluhan
catat dan laporkan ke dokter.

- Observasi perlu dilakukan selama 2×24 jam. Jika dalam kurun waktu
itu ada keluhan, apalagi sampai muntah dengan menyembur, segera
larikan ke rumah sakit terdekat.

- Sebaliknya bila setelah jatuh dalam keadaan sadar tapi pasif
(apalagi tidak menggerak-gerakkan anggota badannya) jangan
mengangkatnya. Hubungi UGD rumah sakit terdekat atau 118 untuk minta
pertolongan paramedis. Salah mengangkat dalam kondisi seperti ini
dapat berisiko fatal.

* Jika menemukan si kecil sudah di lantai.

- Perhatikan keadaan bayi; sadar atau tidak, menangis atau tidak,
dapat menggerak-gerakkan anggota badan atau tidak. Jika ia tidak
sadar atau sadar tapi pasif, ingat jangan menggendongnya, tapi
segera minta bantuan paramedis terdekat, UGD atau 118.

- Perhatikan dalam posisi seperti apa si kecil saat ditemukan.

+ Jika dalam keadaan tengkurap kemungkinan besarnya aman. Tapi kita
mesti melakukan pemeriksaan seputar bahu, kedua tangan, dada dan
kaki. Caranya gerakkan tangan ke atas, depan, samping. Jika ada
keluhan sakit segera bawa ke dokter.

+ Jika dalam keadaan telentang. Periksa dan perhatikan daerah kepala
bagian belakang, leher, punggung, dan panggul, mulai dari tanda
lebam atau merah, hingga keluhan sakit saat disentuh dan digerakkan
seperti yang telah disebutkan di atas. Pastikan bayi tidak muntah
atau mengalami penurunan kesadaran dalam 2×24 jam. Jika ada keluhan
segera larikan ke dokter.

+ Jika bayi ditemukan dalam posisi miring, kanan atau kiri.
Perhatikan dan periksa kepala, tangan yang menjadi tumpuan badan,
juga kaki. Lakukan pemeriksaan seperti yang disebutkan di atas. Jika
ada keluhan segera larikan ke dokter.

+ Jika ditemukan dalam posisi duduk. Periksa dan pastikan bayi masih
sadar, biasanya menangis, dan mampu menggerakkan anggota badan.
Periksa bagian panggulnya, ada tidak tanda memar, merah, atau sakit
saat dipegang atau digerakkan. Jika ya segera larikan ke dokter.

* Pemeriksaan lain yang perlu dilakukan

- Dalam posisi apa pun jatuhnya si kecil, jangan lupa melakukan
pemeriksaan mata. Baiknya menggunakan senter:

+ Masih bereaksikah saat kita senter matanya, mengedip, menutup
matanya atau kaget. Jika tidak bawa segera anak ke rumah sakit.

+ Gerakan senter ke kanan dan ke kiri, masih mampukah bayi mengikuti
gerakan sinar. Jika tidak ia harus segera dilarikan ke rumah sakit.

+ Perhatikan pupil matanya, apakah pupil mata yang kiri dan kanan
sama besar/kecilnya saat kita senter satu per satu. Jika sama kita
bisa bernapas lega. Bila tidak, bayi perlu menjalani pemeriksaan
lebih lanjut, seperti CT Scan.

- Ukur dan pastikan si kecil jatuh dari ketinggian berapa. Sebab
semakin tinggi pastinya gaya gravitasi bumi akan lebih kuat menarik
si anak. Tentu efek yang ditimbulkan pun semakin besar.

EFEK POSISI JATUH

Di bawah ini kemungkinan- kemungkinan yang bisa terjadi pada bayi
saat terjatuh. Dengan pengetahuan ini diharapkan orangtua bisa lebih
memahami kondisi bayi bila terjatuh dan mampu melakukan pertolongan
pertama yang benar:

* Jika kepala terlebih dahulu yang membentur lantai

Di sebelah mana pun benturan itu terjadi selama masih di kepala,
kita perlu mewaspadainya. Tulang tengkorak bayi masih rapuh dan ia
belum memiliki refleks untuk menahan dengan baik. Kemungkinan yang
bisa terjadi, bayi mengalami fraktur atau retak/patah tulang
tengkorak kepala, atau perdarahan di luar tengkorak atau di dalam
tengkorak.

Perdarahan di luar dapat ditandai dengan adanya benjol/memar. Selama
tidak ada fraktur, kondisi ini bisa dikatakan tidak parah. Rabalah
ubun-ubunnya apakah menjendol atau tidak. Ubun-ubun yang menjendol
menjadi tanda adanya peningkatan tekanan dalam otak yang dapat
terjadi karena edema otak atau perdarahan.

Harap diketahui, bila tidak ditemukan benjolan/memar, tapi bayi
menangis (atau justru tidak menangis dan langsung tertidur), tidak
sadarkan diri, mengalami kejang/muntah- muntah (yang menyembur bukan
gumoh), ada kecurigaan bayi mengalami perdarahan di dalam tengkorak
kepalanya. Segera larikan ke rumah sakit terdekat.

* Jika dada terlebih dahulu yang membentur permukaan

Kalau tempat mendaratnya datar, kemungkinan risiko bayi untuk cedera
lebih sedikit. Sebaliknya, tempat mendarat yang tidak mulus atau ada
tonjolan yang tepat mengarah ke dadanya dapat mengakibatkan
fraktur/parah tulang iga atau rusuk yang patahannya dapat mengenai
organ paru-paru atau jantungnya. Untuk itu perhatikan apakah si
kecil dapat bernapas secara normal atau tidak.

Umumnya jika bagian dada terlebih dahulu yang “mendarat”, secara
alami tangan akan membuat perlindungan terlebih dahulu. Karena itu
periksa juga kondisi tangan dan bahu bayi. Apakah ada pergelangan
tangannya mengalami patah atau adakah sendi yang keluar (dislokasi)
dari tempatnya. Periksa juga bagian kepala, khususnya dahi. Biasanya
saat mendarat, sekalipun dada terlebih dahulu, kepala langsung
menyusul membentur lantai.

* Jika panggul terlebih dahulu yang mendarat

Kemungkinan besar bayi akan mengalami dislokasi atau fraktur tulang
panggul. Karena panggul berhubungan langsung dengan tulang belakang,
dikhawatirkan ada saraf-saraf yang terjepit. Jika yang terjepit
saraf kaki biasanya si kecil tidak bisa menggerakkan kakinya alias
lumpuh.

* Jika yang mendarat kaki terlebih dahulu

Kejadiannya pada tiap bayi bisa berbeda. Jika ia sudah bisa berdiri
pasti akan menahan tubuhnya dengan kaki lalu jatuh bersimpuh. Risiko
kasus ini adalah dislokasi atau keseleo. Pada bayi di bawah 6 bulan
meski belum mampu menahan tubuhnya, secara alami badan bayi akan
terjatuh ke depan dan sebelum mendarat tangannya akan menjadi
bumper.

* Jika yang mendarat bokong duluan

Berbahaya karena kaitannya langsung dengan tulang belakang dan dapat
mengakibatkan patah pada tulang punggung bayi. Risiko lain, bila ada
saraf yang terjepit bisa mengakibatkan kelumpuhan. Bayi yang
ditemukan terjatuh pada posisi seperti ini jangan digendong. Biarkan
paramedis yang melakukan pertolongan. Tapi jika si kecil sadar dan
bisa aktif kita bisa langsung menggendongnya.

* Jika yang mendarat terlebih dahulu punggung

Menjadi bahaya jika saat mendarat posisi leher ikut
terlipat/tertekuk karena bisa mengakibatkan keseleo dan fraktur
tulang leher. Bila bayi dalam keadaan tidak sadar jangan mencoba
mengangkatnya. Langkah yang bisa kita lakukan adalah minta bantuan
paramedis di UGD di rumah sakit atau 118.

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Head bump Baby

Well. Not really actually.. If I had to be honest with you, Thena bumps like manytimes at anywhere..
but this morning bumps was the worst of all..
She fell down from bed !!!!!!
It was 7am, Manda & Panda was really tired after the whole night trying to get Thena to a really nice sleep, covering her from rolling-and-rolling-and-rolling over everywhere on the bed. So when it was 5am, we thought she had given up, zip some milks, and straight to sleep. And both parents decided to also take some sleep. Unfortunately, I could only hear a big BUMP on the floor, and "hyeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa !!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and all of the suddedn realizing she was not around on the bed, went to the floor and see her there, makes my heart fell from 6th floor building.. Underneath her was the giant pillow we used to cover the end side of bed -- the pillow that we thought she could never had the strength to move -- but yet, she did. Somehow. She might kick that huge pillow to the floor, and with her ability to try to get down from the bed (which I admitted, that she's really great at 'backtrack style')... I hope, feet first then BUMP, feel on butt and head on ground. I just hope that her head is not injured by any other bumps than the ground.... I'm just scared.... totally freaking out!!!
I guess we're gonna start using her baby-craddle for a night time sleep...
NEVER EVER AGAIN for Manda & Panda to this reckless !!!! NEVER!!!!
I hope she's not internally injured....
Do I need to check to doctor for this? I think I should yaa... I starting to terrified....